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Growing Resilient – Session 7

Growing Resilient – Session 7

Active Constructive Responding Can Make Your Valentine’s Day Blossom! Happy Valentine’s Day!!! Today let us jump right in, feet first, and add a tool we can begin implementing this very day! This tool is called Active Constructive Responding (ACR). This tool is important to use when someone is sharing negative emotional experiences. However, on Valentine’s Day, I want to share how ACR affects our relationships with friends, spouses, partners, children, co-workers,etc, while sharing positive emotional experiences. The ability to effectively…

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Growing Resilient – Session 6

Growing Resilient – Session 6

Challenging Beliefs Before we get to challenging beliefs, let’s review: Resiliency is that ability to get through life’s challenges effectively and come out stronger, healthier. Resiliency is NOT about being unrealistically optimistic, or about withholding your thoughts and feelings, or about becoming hardened, or about changing other people. Resiliency IS about self-awareness. (Self-awareness is the key to all real growth.) Resiliency IS about healthy, constructive, flexible, accurate thoughts & responses, purposeful action, empathy for self and for others, realistic hope,…

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Growing Resilient – Coaching Session 5

Growing Resilient – Coaching Session 5

Deeply held beliefs. Icebergs. Before we think about those icebergs in our own lives, how did you do on your homework? Are those ABC’s and DE’s more easily recognizable? Are you finding that you are stopping and thinking about – what evidence you are basing your thoughts on? – are there other possible explanations? – do you need to ask more questions to get more information? – do you need to clarify? I hope so! Give yourself a hug! Any…

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Growing Resilient – Session 4

Growing Resilient – Session 4

Growing Resilient Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting. [Psa 139:23-24 NIV] And you, …, acknowledge the God of your father, and serve him with wholehearted devotion and with a willing mind, for the LORD searches every heart and understands every desire and every thought. If you seek him, he will be found by you; but if…

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Growing Resilient – Coaching Session 3

Growing Resilient – Coaching Session 3

Growing Resilient. Hello again! And how are you today? The last 2 weeks I have discussed what resilience is and why it is important as a Christian to intentionally foster a growing resilience. If you missed those 2 posts, I urge you to go back and read them over: S1 – S2 S2 Homework Review How did you do on your homework? Were you able to capture a few incidents on paper and break them down into your ABCD’s? Those…

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Growing Resilient – Coaching Session 2

Growing Resilient – Coaching Session 2

Take thoughts captive – that will be our focus today. Let us start with a review first. If you missed my post from last week, you can read it here. What is resilience? Last week I talked about what resiliency is: recovering readily from illness, depression, adversity, or the like; buoyant. Or, in other words, having fortitude (mental and emotional strength in facing difficulty, adversity, danger, or temptation courageously: ) to not only recover readily, but to come out stronger….

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Growing Resilient – Coaching Session 1

Growing Resilient – Coaching Session 1

Growing Resilient, Session 1: Resilience? Let’s talk a bit about resiliency and why it is crucial to us as Christians to exercise and grow stronger in resiliency. What is resilience? Resiliency is that ability, that mental fortitude, that not only carries us through adversity, but allows us to grow stronger in spite of hardship. Paul, in Philippians, compares the life of a Christian to a race – and not an elementary school race either! Paul uses words that imply that…

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Dull feelings lacking the shimmer and shine of the holidays?

Dull feelings lacking the shimmer and shine of the holidays?

Feeling sad, mad, bad? Are your dull feelings lacking the shimmer and shine of the holiday spirit? During the busy holiday season, it is very common to feel overwhelmed, to feel lonely in spite of the hustle and bustle, to feel anxious, to feel sad, disappointed, frustrated… Whether you are young or old or in between, these are all common, prevalent feelings that hide behind the painted smile during this time of year. You are not alone. Here is a…

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What Do Signature Strengths Look Like?

What Do Signature Strengths Look Like?

Signature Strengths. When I think of this term, Colossians 4:5b comes to mind: “make the most of every opportunity.” Memories and impressions come in flashes for me. An incident here, a look there. I formed opinions about my parents – who they were – what they were – which seemed to take solid form by early adulthood. Being a psychoanalyst by nature, I did, and still do, spend time reflecting on those moments, attempting to dig deeper into their psyche….

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Building Positive Emotion: Missing Steps?

Building Positive Emotion: Missing Steps?

Building Positive Emotion “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.” Galatians 5:22 Positive emotions, certainly, but how do we get from here to there? God isn’t magic, although He could be. He wants to partner with us rather than wiggle His nose like Bewitched or bob His head like I Dream of Jeannie. In so doing, we grow in trust, we grow in strength, we grow in maturity and character….

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