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Growing Resilient – Session 7

Growing Resilient – Session 7

Active Constructive Responding Can Make Your Valentine’s Day Blossom! Happy Valentine’s Day!!! Today let us jump right in, feet first, and add a tool we can begin implementing this very day! This tool is called Active Constructive Responding (ACR). This tool is important to use when someone is sharing negative emotional experiences. However, on Valentine’s Day, I want to share how ACR affects our relationships with friends, spouses, partners, children, co-workers,etc, while sharing positive emotional experiences. The ability to effectively…

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Growing Resilient – Session 6

Growing Resilient – Session 6

Challenging Beliefs Before we get to challenging beliefs, let’s review: Resiliency is that ability to get through life’s challenges effectively and come out stronger, healthier. Resiliency is NOT about being unrealistically optimistic, or about withholding your thoughts and feelings, or about becoming hardened, or about changing other people. Resiliency IS about self-awareness. (Self-awareness is the key to all real growth.) Resiliency IS about healthy, constructive, flexible, accurate thoughts & responses, purposeful action, empathy for self and for others, realistic hope,…

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Growing Resilient – Coaching Session 2

Growing Resilient – Coaching Session 2

Take thoughts captive – that will be our focus today. Let us start with a review first. If you missed my post from last week, you can read it here. What is resilience? Last week I talked about what resiliency is: recovering readily from illness, depression, adversity, or the like; buoyant. Or, in other words, having fortitude (mental and emotional strength in facing difficulty, adversity, danger, or temptation courageously: ) to not only recover readily, but to come out stronger….

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Dull feelings lacking the shimmer and shine of the holidays?

Dull feelings lacking the shimmer and shine of the holidays?

Feeling sad, mad, bad? Are your dull feelings lacking the shimmer and shine of the holiday spirit? During the busy holiday season, it is very common to feel overwhelmed, to feel lonely in spite of the hustle and bustle, to feel anxious, to feel sad, disappointed, frustrated… Whether you are young or old or in between, these are all common, prevalent feelings that hide behind the painted smile during this time of year. You are not alone. Here is a…

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What Do Signature Strengths Look Like?

What Do Signature Strengths Look Like?

Signature Strengths. When I think of this term, Colossians 4:5b comes to mind: “make the most of every opportunity.” Memories and impressions come in flashes for me. An incident here, a look there. I formed opinions about my parents – who they were – what they were – which seemed to take solid form by early adulthood. Being a psychoanalyst by nature, I did, and still do, spend time reflecting on those moments, attempting to dig deeper into their psyche….

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Building Positive Emotion: Missing Steps?

Building Positive Emotion: Missing Steps?

Building Positive Emotion “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.” Galatians 5:22 Positive emotions, certainly, but how do we get from here to there? God isn’t magic, although He could be. He wants to partner with us rather than wiggle His nose like Bewitched or bob His head like I Dream of Jeannie. In so doing, we grow in trust, we grow in strength, we grow in maturity and character….

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One Way

One Way

One way to God? I have a family member who sincerely believes that there are many paths to God. It is one of my triggers, so unfortunately I react rather than respond. I am working on this. I wish I’d simply say, “Well Jesus will disagree with you on that,” and let her ask the questions, if she is truly seeking. Writing this is likely my way of processing my inner thoughts and dialogue with God this morning, and from…

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My Journey – Searching for Life to the Full

My Journey – Searching for Life to the Full

Life to the full? “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.” John 10:10 How do we acquire this life “to the full”? How can we grow in hope and joy and peace? How can we fortify an inner resilience that allows us to deepen and thrive in our experience & relationship with Him, and to strengthen our lives in real, tangible ways? How…

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Morning Reflection on Spiritual Weeding

Morning Reflection on Spiritual Weeding

Spiritual weeding? Good morning! Spring is almost here, so I suppose it seems logical that my morning reflections would lead to thoughts of weeding. (I have never lived somewhere that required so very much weeding!) When I was very young, I remember my grandmother teaching me how to weed. She gave us a small butter knife and showed us how to dig next to the weed and pull up the entire root. It wasn’t fun. I didn’t like it. The…

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Humble and Gentle Heart of Jesus

Humble and Gentle Heart of Jesus

Jesus’ Humble and Gentle Heart. “…learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls…” Matthew 11:29 I want us to really meditate on this sweet piece of Scripture from the mouth of Jesus Christ. Let us pause.  Selah.     “…learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls…”       When we are spiritually abused, one common reaction…

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